![]() ![]() ![]() but if it doesn't matter to me, as a great many minor things don't, others are welcome to decide for me. i'm not apathetic about anything that actually matters to me.pretty intense to the point of being considered domineering. I come across as easygoing at times but i am not ~ inside i am passionate and dramatic, a sea of emotions. but is all that just part of being an INFJ, rather than evidence of type 9? unresolved conflict with others is so stressful to me that over time it can make me physically sick. i like and admire the concept of standing alone, even though i hate to feel alone.īut also harmony means everything to me. i'm very aware of my dark side but try to squelch it rather than promote or engage it, for ethical reasons. I have a passion to be true to myself and really don't want to lose my identity in that of those around me. but there are times when i'll step into the middle of a conflict (if i think someone's feelings are being hurt, or someone is being mistreated), state my opinion, sometimes identify with both sides, and start ordering people around (telling them to stop mistreating someone!!). ![]() there are occasions when i won't take a side if a conflict is already roaring.because i hate conflict, or because i just want to be liked. i definitely didn't want to hurt anyone i just wasn't aware of or considering how it would affect them. but many times i've also been known to passionately just state what i think and it be hurtful.at times when i didn't realize or consider how what i said would affect someone else.especially about controversial issues like politics. I will state my opinion freely, but if i fear it could cause hurt feelings, disharmony, or dislike, i will state it gently and carefully so as to avoid conflict or hurting someone's feelings. Fours express their views passionately and without shame, and Nines try to be a little bit more tact about it, sometimes not even taking a side.Ĭlick to expand.the problem is that i could relate with both sides (9 and 4) in these descriptions. 9's would rather keep the peace than express their negative side for all the world to see.Īlso, huge difference between Fours and Nines you see on this forum all the time. This does not mean that 9's are unaware of their darker emotions, they just don't want to identify with them too much for fear of permanently destroying their inner peace.Ĥ's care so much about individualism it really hurts to see some of them. Although, once a 4 looks too much, they might grab onto a dark identity and make it into their character.ĩ's look to get away from their depression through influencing their emotions. They're more willing to look into the dark side of themselves and be completely honest. 4's ultimately don't care as long as they express their unique views on things.Ĥ's primary mode during depression is to take their emotions into their identity. 9's try to sugarcoat things to avoid conflict. ![]()
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